It has different levels with the highest I.e. the Selfless. It's really difficult being completely selfless towards anyone within any relationship. Nowadays it's very rare. Probably it's not even possible now with lust, wanting fame or not wanting disgrace, money, power, fear of society, attention or any selfish desires in almost everyone's heart. Time is changing rapidly and the past is taking all the selfless and good with it. We might be emotional and blind or society is telling not to see it but reality is different.
Selfish desires are there. some has more, some has less but it's there. But in some relationships, the desires are not completely wrong if we see through their eyes, they can't just resist it and it's not their fault too. Slowly real love is fading away from this world of burning desires. It's our choice either to burn in the fire and be nothing or become the air and finally be free. Choose wisely.
Then the lower level of "the selfless" can be the selfish. It's where majority of peoples fit in. From desires and satisfaction of choices breeds love. It goes on until the choices are satisfied. Then slowly it gives up and try to chase after someone who can fulfill it's desires. They will tell lies to fulfill it so think logically and carefully. When time flies then we can get more attached to even that selfish love and when they won't continue then it will hurt more.
So now in this selfish love world, maybe having some ego or self respect would be fine. It will act as a defense mechanism for own mental peace. It can help control the mental sanity and won't let chase after selfish love. I know ego isn't a good thing and can destroy but sometime it's necessary evil. For example, someone you love isn't loving you back then if you don't have ego then you will keep chasing after them and mental peace can be destroyed.
The third level can be the forced. When someone forces you to love them back. Influence your thoughts so it's not really natural love. Or take advantage of your situation to change your feelings in favor of them. Be careful about it. Extreme selfishness can be found so it can be dangerous for you.
Note: it's only the outer layers. Let's not go into more depth.
Selfish desires are there. some has more, some has less but it's there. But in some relationships, the desires are not completely wrong if we see through their eyes, they can't just resist it and it's not their fault too. Slowly real love is fading away from this world of burning desires. It's our choice either to burn in the fire and be nothing or become the air and finally be free. Choose wisely.
Then the lower level of "the selfless" can be the selfish. It's where majority of peoples fit in. From desires and satisfaction of choices breeds love. It goes on until the choices are satisfied. Then slowly it gives up and try to chase after someone who can fulfill it's desires. They will tell lies to fulfill it so think logically and carefully. When time flies then we can get more attached to even that selfish love and when they won't continue then it will hurt more.
So now in this selfish love world, maybe having some ego or self respect would be fine. It will act as a defense mechanism for own mental peace. It can help control the mental sanity and won't let chase after selfish love. I know ego isn't a good thing and can destroy but sometime it's necessary evil. For example, someone you love isn't loving you back then if you don't have ego then you will keep chasing after them and mental peace can be destroyed.
The third level can be the forced. When someone forces you to love them back. Influence your thoughts so it's not really natural love. Or take advantage of your situation to change your feelings in favor of them. Be careful about it. Extreme selfishness can be found so it can be dangerous for you.
Note: it's only the outer layers. Let's not go into more depth.